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When the level of negative events in life overtakes the positive in our minds, it can be a bit difficult to see how to move on. That’s why Recover Your Balance starts from what you want to be different.

When you’re off balance, getting in touch with what helps you smile, laugh, feel in touch with yourself, enjoy life, is a key part of getting a sense of where you are in the grand scheme of things.

I love doing radio. Today I was Ian Mac’s guest on the Vectis Radio daily phone-in, talking about bouncing back from bad times at work. Our callers, Lyn, Jean and Tony, were all courageous people who had picked themselves up from some emotionally and spiritually damaging experiences. I hope that in telling their stories, they were able to reinforce for our listeners that they are not alone.

How do you talk to yourself when you make a mistake or do something that, in hindsight, you might describe as silly?

“If you met me in the street today, you wouldn’t have the faintest idea I’ve ever had a problem in my life. Some days, I can almost believe it. And that, my friends, takes a whole lot of work. It takes a whole lot of tough love.”

We all have within us the power to bring enormous good into the World. The spanner in the works is self-doubt. Recovering balance is about aligning with our solid core of positive energy, from which creation flows freely. And it’s a life’s work.

At a conference last Autumn, I came across a rather gorgeous woman in the cloakroom. She really did look super – great hair, strong features, beautiful suit. But she was distraught. She’d come out without her make-up and felt naked. She was sure everyone would be looking at her disfavourably. I gently mentioned that I haven’t worn make-up in years (apart from a little lippy). She hadn’t even noticed.

Whatever you want to bring into existence in your life starts in your imagination, whether it is changing jobs, looking for a new home, planning a holiday or writing a book. The real key to recovering your balance lies in steadily raising your energy levels. With a clearer sense of your potential to change, and an intention to make it happen, you can start to use your connections, your intuition and the intervention of synchronicity to bring it into being.

It’s not always easy to find inspiration when you’re off balance. Often you go into survival mode, managing to keep going through a day at a time with not much sense of anything outside the immediate pain. Yet regular inspiration – someone’s achievement, glorious light on a landscape, the fledging of birds in Spring, a life of giving – is what keeps us mindful that life is possible beyond your current difficulties.

If you’re able to take time out over the festive season, you might want to think about how you can recover your balance and set off into next year in a more positive and calmer frame of mind.