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When the level of negative events in life overtakes the positive in our minds, it can be a bit difficult to see how to move on. That’s why Recover Your Balance starts from what you want to be different.

At a conference last Autumn, I came across a rather gorgeous woman in the cloakroom. She really did look super – great hair, strong features, beautiful suit. But she was distraught. She’d come out without her make-up and felt naked. She was sure everyone would be looking at her disfavourably. I gently mentioned that I haven’t worn make-up in years (apart from a little lippy). She hadn’t even noticed.

Whatever you want to bring into existence in your life starts in your imagination, whether it is changing jobs, looking for a new home, planning a holiday or writing a book. The real key to recovering your balance lies in steadily raising your energy levels. With a clearer sense of your potential to change, and an intention to make it happen, you can start to use your connections, your intuition and the intervention of synchronicity to bring it into being.

If you’re able to take time out over the festive season, you might want to think about how you can recover your balance and set off into next year in a more positive and calmer frame of mind.

When you’re off balance, it’s all too easy to feel as though you’re constantly in the path of a storm. Yet as you regain your stability, you’re able to respond unflurriedly to events more often.

As I write, it’s a beautiful, balmy late Autumn day. It was on just such a day that I moved on to new things. I could not have imagined then how different life would be by now. And I did things the hard way, taking far too long to recover my balance. When it’s time for you to move on, what will you do to make the transition easier?

It’s simple really: No-one should have to take years to rediscover their self-esteem. A negative self-image spills out into every encounter. Learning to listen to your own true voice, to find and use your strengths, to live according to your deepest values, these are the keys to recovering your balance. And they’re essential if you’re to fulfil your potential.

Things can really move quite fast when you make a commitment to change your circumstances. Allowing the possibility of creating a better situation completely lifts your spirits, and reduces the pressure of negative emotions on your body, mind and spirit. The mind-shift you experience can feel like a sudden ray of sunlight on a wet day.

Recovering your balance is about getting back to your real self. Not the one you ‘keep in a jar by the door’ as Eleanor Rigby does in the Beatles song. I mean the self that you are when you’re living your values, acknowledging both your strengths and your weaknesses as part of the complexity of your being.

In my research for my series on the bullying of women in the work place by women, (link: http://dorothydalton.wordpress.com/2010/05/24/the-lipstick-jungle-get-me-out-of-here/) I was contacted by a huge number of women and somewhat surprisingly men too. Most of this communication was private.