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When the level of negative events in life overtakes the positive in our minds, it can be a bit difficult to see how to move on. That’s why Recover Your Balance starts from what you want to be different.

When distressing things happen at work – bullying, work overload, being in a toxic workplace, redundancy – they can knock you right off balance. Here’s how you can start to recover and move on from their negative impact.

I found myself shouting at the radio this weekend. I couldn’t believe my ears. Whatever gives Oliver Letwin the idea that instilling fear into public servants will deliver excellence? (The Guardian, 30 July.) This is not a recipe for reform. It’s the straight path to creating a bullying culture.

I love doing radio. Today I was Ian Mac’s guest on the Vectis Radio daily phone-in, talking about bouncing back from bad times at work. Our callers, Lyn, Jean and Tony, were all courageous people who had picked themselves up from some emotionally and spiritually damaging experiences. I hope that in telling their stories, they were able to reinforce for our listeners that they are not alone.

“If you met me in the street today, you wouldn’t have the faintest idea I’ve ever had a problem in my life. Some days, I can almost believe it. And that, my friends, takes a whole lot of work. It takes a whole lot of tough love.”

If you’re able to take time out over the festive season, you might want to think about how you can recover your balance and set off into next year in a more positive and calmer frame of mind.

The trait of high sensory sensitivity is a rich vein. In my last post I mused on whether there’s a higher than expected proportion of Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) among those who struggle to stay balanced in the midst of bullying, a toxic workplace, or high stress. Perhaps you’ll share your experiences?

I’m on yet another learning journey at the moment, and it’s one that might interest you if you often find yourself off balance. Via the wonderful Kat Tansey, author of Choosing to Be – Lessons in Living from a Feline Zen Master, I came across the work of Dr Elaine Aron on what she calls ‘Sensory Processing Sensitivity’. It was a revelation, and it explains a lot. Kat Tansey’s interview with Elaine Aron is here.

When you’re off balance, it’s all too easy to feel as though you’re constantly in the path of a storm. Yet as you regain your stability, you’re able to respond unflurriedly to events more often.

Recover Your Balance is all about finding a place where your energy is centred and balanced. If you’re off balance, whether you’ve withdrawn into your shell or are angrily on the attack, you’re not best placed to find lasting solutions or to experience yourself at your best.